Dolce Liberta Magazine - FOR ALL WOMEN!

ARE YOU YOUR OWN WORST ENEMY?

February 22, 2020

For most people, when they’re honest, there’s an inner critic that runs rampant. They would never speak to a friend or a loved one the way they speak to themselves. If you’ve ever been close to someone who constantly complains and judges everything – where nothing is ever good enough – then you know firsthand how exhausting it is to be around them.

What can be done, though, when the one described is you? You can’t walk away from that critical voice when it’s living inside your own head.

A cornerstone of a truly healthy lifestyle is ensuring our relationships are also growing healthier, and that includes our relationship to ourselves. Wonderful things occur when we are kinder to ourselves. You’re on your own team, you have your own back, and you’re actively building your inner kindness and your opinion of yourself. You will feel more support, more spaciousness, and more love in every part of yourself. We truly are the company we keep, and that includes ourselves.

To determine if you need to do some work on the way you talk to yourself, there are five questions to ask and really think about. Let’s think – are you in a healthy relationship with yourself?

– 5 Essential questions to start asking to yourself! –

1. Is the relationship to your body a supportive and kind one?

Are you tearing yourself down all the time, or do you have the perspective to give yourself a little leeway?

2. Would you ever speak to another person the way you speak to yourself?

Think about it – if you wouldn’t say that to your best friend or your mom, don’t say it to yourself.

3. Do you prioritize your own health and well-being as much as you do others?

Your body and mind deserves your respect as much as anyone else.

4. Do you have pride in the relationship you keep with your body, mind, and heart?

Look back at what you’ve done and how far you’ve come before you dismiss your efforts.

5. Would you allow other people to treat you, or speak to you, the way you do yourself?

Think about your thoughts as if you were getting a text from a stranger – are you speaking yourself in a way you would want to be treated?

” WHEN YOU FIND YOUR INNER VOICE PUTTING YOU DOWN, INTERRUPT THAT VOICE USING THE MANNER YOU WOULD USE TO SPEAK TO A LOVED ONE.”

To transform your inner critic into a healthier inner companion, try watching, for an entire day, the quiet voice that motivates your behavior. When you find your inner voice putting you down, interrupt that voice using the manner you would use to speak to a loved one or even a child. In time, you’ll find that shifting to inner friendliness can lead to more motivation to get healthier, eat cleaner, and rest more often.